Ephesians 5:22-33

Sermon for the 14th Sunday after Pentecost                   August 26, 2018     Pr. Lopez

Ephesians 5.21-33

The sermon for today is in the book of Ephesians the second reading for today’s Bible readings.

It is about living together as husband and wife in love!!!

Chapter 5 stars this way….

Ephesians 5

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. 2 And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

You could say, ok I can leave now, I am not married anymore, I a widower, or I am single. I can skip this sermon. But no, this applies to all of our relationships—with family, church, friends, or neighbors—we should be committed to helping others thrive and grow.

Any relationship is founded in commitment.  Marriage is based on commitment,  commitment to grow together.  The second reading for today is from Ephesians 5:21-33.

Ephesians 5:22

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

One day I put this image on Facebook:





Almost immediately I got a comment from a woman saying, “Could we have two umbrellas under Jesus? One for him and one for me? I do not want to be under or submitted under my husband.”

If you want to get a rise out of people, tell them the Bible says wives must submit to their husbands in everything.

We live in America. Black people were put down through slavery for many years, Chinese people were abused to build roads, and so on, but also, women were abused.

Women were not allowed to vote, women through history have been abused, and are abused today in other countries, some even use a veil to cover their faces, and are told not to talk. But not here in America. We fight for equality of sexes.

The Bible reading today says…..

Ephesians 5

21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

How could you Pastor Lopez preach about women being under a man? How could the Bible dare to put women under a man? How could God, Jesus, loving Jesus put a woman under a man’s authority?

On the other hand, some husbands may want to applaud. Some women might say, “…over my dead body,” and some men might feel pressure to be more dominant.

In today’s world, “submit” brings up an image of a controlling (even abusive) husband and a mousy, subservient wife.  It should be clear that no wife should submit to abuse (physical, mental, emotional, or in the family). No wife should join her husband in evil, because God is a higher authority. And no wife should be so docile that she is irrelevant to the relationship.

However, if we think of submission in terms of a power struggle, we will be missing the point.

Ephesians 5

21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives and Husbands

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

Some translations made the mistake of adding a title between verses 21 and 22, which obscured the connection.  If we do not read it together we lose the meaning of the whole teaching. Paul is quite clear that the husband is to submit as well as the wife! What is Paul’s main point? He begins with “Submit to one another,” and he ends with verse 33,

Ephesians 5:33

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

The key to understand the Word of God here and not take it wrong, thinking God wants to put women down, is that God is not talking about a power struggle; He is talking about mutual love and support.


I was visiting Mary on Friday. We have a very interesting conversation. Mannette was telling us her uncle was a pastor. He explained this Bible verse to her. When we are married there are times situations that we need to make a final decision. For example, a disease in one of the children. If it gets to the point where a decision has to be made and the wife and the husband do not agree on what to decide, the husband has the final vote.

And he has to live with it, even when it was a bad decision.

The Bible reading is very deep because it talks about been imitators of Jesus.

Jesus is telling us husbands love your wife, just as Jesus loved the church.

Jesus came to this world to give his life on the cross. The whole plan of God sending his son, His only son to earth was to die.


John 3:16

16 “For God so loved the world,[a] that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

Jesus died to give us life.

If you are a child of God, God has promised you heaven.

But as I told you, there is commitment in any relationship. We need to grow in faith.

Jesus is telling us today submit yourselves to the Lord.

What is “to submit”?  To render, to give, to give up.

Jesus is asking you to bring your time to Him. To give Him your time.

I can bring to God once a week one hour of my time!!!

But I need to work, I need to take the children to the soccer game, I need to buy groceries, I need to rest!!!! To render it all, to submit?????

But my time?

We out of love need to render our time to the Lord.  This a tough decision.

We are in America, and in America we say, time is money!!!!  Does Jesus want me to submit all my money?


I will tell you how much you love your wife if you show me your wallet. You add up all the money you spent on your wife last month, compare it with how much you earned, and here it is. This is how much you love your wife.

For example, you earned $4,000 last month

You bought…

Food        500

Flowers    20

Gift           300

Rent       1000

Date          250



$  4,000  =  100%

$  2,070  =    51.75%

It is the same with God. Check how much you earned last month and look for how much offering you gave to the church. You only need to do all the math we did before to know how much you love God.

Does God want all my money?  We need to know God blesses us with money and health to work.

I once heard that when a person comes to the church, God changes us. But the last thing that we give to the Lord is our wallets.

It is like baptism.

It is kind of being baptized immersed in water, but we do not let our wallet get baptized.

So, is God asking me for 100% of my check? No, he is asking you for only 10%.  Jesus let blesses you with you check, and he let you use it.

I was talking to one of our teenagers in the church. He worked all summer. Now he has all this money. I was telling him. Be careful, do not spend it all in a crazy way.  He said no pastor, I gave it to my mom, she will give the money back little by little when I need it.

This happens to us adults too. When we have money, we invest in a house, in a car, in something that is going to be the best investment!!!  We put our money in a safe place, a bank, not in the mattress.

Let me tell you there is no better place, there is no safer place, no better investment than GOD!!!